Colt turned 6, over a month ago. It’s not that I didn’t want to write something a month ago, I did think about it, but like most of this pandemic, thinking about things rarely seems to turn into doing that thing. It’s weird, but when you have all the time in the world to do what you want, and not be dragged down with commutes and places you have to be, sometimes you just don’t feel like doing anything.
Anyway, this post is supposed to be about how Colt has grown and about how I have grown as a parent.
I went back and re-read the post I wrote when he turned 5 and I am just in awe about how much has changed, and how much has honestly stayed the same. I was so excited and nervous about Colt attending kindergarten having just attended the round up at his school. Little did I know, that all that preparation and planning would be gone by the time Colt actually started school. Where I was looking forward to the gradual introduction of life at a new school, about attending during his first day so all the parents could see how things would go, would actually turn out to never happen. Instead he started Kindergarten in a Zoom meeting on a chromebook in my kitchen. And when he was finally allowed to attend in person school just a few weeks ago, no parents are allowed to go into the building.
I have spoken in previous posts about my challenges with virtual kindergarten so I wont go into that again. But I will say that there has been a new sense of peace in the house since Colt returned to in-person learning. I have to admit that it is weirdly quiet in the house without him. The first few days of him back to school I did find time to pick up the house and run the Roomba like I used to do back in day. I do really miss having him around, but I like not having to pester him about things. And even though Mike gets off work just in time to meet Colt at the bus stop each day, I have admittedly been more than excited to throw on my coat and walk down to greet him as well.
As far as academics go, Colt does a really good job of identifying all of his letters, both upper and lowercase. He’s pretty good at counting up to 30. We still have to keep working on his letter sounds, and counting by 10s, and up to 100. He’s working on site words as well. Surprisingly, I have not been really focused on what he can do, though I did review with him the other day to kind of see where things stood. I am hoping that at this point in the year, Colt can instead focus on getting back into the routine and the process of being at school. I have to keep reminding myself that every kid had a crap situation this year and I am sure that they will recover.
Last year at this time I was looking forward to the many awesome outside play dates that I was hoping to have. I challenged Colt and I to spend 1000 hours outside and I was hoping that we’d get a lot of our friends out along with us. We tracked well over 950 hours so we probably hit our goal. But there were not as many play dates as we’d hoped. Recently, we celebrated Colt’s friend’s birthday, outdoors, wearing masks. There was a moment as he was running around chasing his friends on the play equipment, I thought to myself, who ever would have imagined a childhood like this? I never in my wildest dreams I would be impressed that a 6 year old was capable of playing for 2 straight hours and not taking his mask off except for once when it slipped off his ear.
Of course, we had to cancel our enrollment in Ninja Class and Swim Lessons. And while I know a lot of kids are starting to go back into those activities, I don’t know that we will be just yet. Colt has asked about Ninja class, stating that he missing Coach. Maybe this summer if they can have more things outdoors or at least have the big doors open like they did in the past.
Colt is able to make me laugh again. It’s not that he had stopped trying, but I was finding it hard to enjoy the little moments. I still struggle with how to take a moment for myself. If that makes any sense at all. I miss the drive from work to daycare, that moment where I could take off my work responsibilities, before turning on the mom duty. And I used to complain that the drive was still too short for me to take that needed break. Over the summer I did a better job at stopping to do things with Colt, whether it was eat a meal or go for a bike ride, or even do an activity for a bit. Once school started and my schedule was harder to work around, I kept telling myself that if I just keep working then I will get off of work earlier and then I can focus on family. But it was still hard. All I really wanted was just a moment to myself, and the easiest way to get that was doom scrolling on Facebook or playing a quick game on my phone. And Colt knew it. And I felt like I was spending more time telling him, “just a minute” or “give me a moment to just rest and then I will…” But there are moments like today when he can make up a story on the fly and act in such a way that I look at him and I just marvel at how creative he is. I really hope that he’s able to find joy in theater so many of my friends did when we were in school, I do think he could be a natural.
Colt will be attending school full days, 4 days a week starting Monday thanks to some government mandate to get kids back in person sooner. I am trying to see the bright side in that more people are getting vaccinated, including Mike and I’s parents. And vaccines will be available to all adults in Michigan starting in April. Of course right now our numbers are back on the rise… I am just glad the school year is almost over, I know it’s only March but soon it will be spring break and then there will be just April and May, and a bit of June. And then we’ll be trying to figure out what he does for the summer.
Gosh, and feel like I am still just so stuck in this stupid corona virus world where I can’t even write a decent blog about my son.
You know what, Colt has done some amazing cooking with me over this past year. He has his own chef’s knife and he is really good at cutting up and peeling veggies for me. And we’ve baked cookies, and muffins. We’ve made homemade pizza! And he’s starting to eat more varying foods. He recently even started eating salad! So I am super looking forward to our second year of our garden where I hope he continues to find love in food.
Oh and he had a doctor’s check up and went to the dentist even. And he’s tall and healthy and does an excellent job of brushing his teeth! He’s getting better at not bouncing all over during those visits too.
Colt still comes into my office and just wants to snuggle on my lap and get a hug during the day. He loves to give hugs. Even when I tell him he shouldn’t right now because of the bad germs, he hugged his dentist and the bus driver today. And even with all of the hard days, and the fighting, I knew I wasn’t the worst mom in the world if he still came to me when he was hurt, upset, or scared. Even if I felt like I was the cause of those feelings. And even thought I know it’s going to be the worst night’s sleep ever, if he comes crawling into by bed in the middle of the night, steals my covers, and pushes me off the edge all night, I’ll still hold him and kiss his head.
Here’s a visual for life with a 6 year old during the time of Covid… Colt comes home from school today, he’s wearing his pajamas because its International Napping Day and he got to wear them. He’s got a winter coat, hat, and his mask on so he’s this little bundle of just eyes. He actually reminds me of a tiny Shredder from TMNT if any of you get that.. And I help him with his hat and he takes off his mask, and he has a blue face. Like blue from like frosting, blue. It’s all around his mouth and even up on his nose. And I had to laugh because there is the really good possibility that his teacher didn’t have a clue what was hiding beneath that mask after snacktime.
And with that, I will conclude that this year has been tough, in strange ways I never would have imagined. And I am looking forward to warm, sunny days outside with my kid. And I am continuously amazed at his creativity, and hard work, and his comedic timing. I love the way I can read what he is thinking just from looking at his face. I love that he’s curious and adventurous, though I wish that he’d slow down. And I hope that maybe someday, he’ll get to look back on these posts and see just how much his parents really did care for him and love him. And know that when you are a parent you are growing up at the same time your children are, and to never stop trying to do better, it isn’t easy all the time. But you wake up fresh and start each day over.